I must say…. today was a great day.
No complaints from this mom.
Carter was happy and cooperative. He played outside, we read a book, and he watched a video.
Hoping tomorrow will be just as great. But if it isn’t, well I guess I’ll just deal with it.
On that note, I just want to talk about some tough times of autism. A friend of mine is having some concerns and she’s at her breaking point. I totally feel for her because I’ve been there. I’m still there from time to time. I know how frustrating it is to deal with the phone calls, the evaluations, the questions, the concerns, the mystery, the emotions, everything is just so confusing. You go through an actual roller coaster of emotions. You’re angry, tired, optimistic, pessimistic, bitter, sad, happy, miserable, confused, overwhelmed, sensitive, every possible feeling you can have–you will have it.
The best advice I can give her and anyone is to learn patience and understanding. It’s tough, don’t get me wrong. But in the end, it’s worth it. You’re more sane. You’re more clear. More content. More optimistic and calm. You still have your moments of sadness and confusion. You feel so bad, not for yourself, but for your child. That your baby has to go through something so tough and frustrating. When I finally grasped the concept of patience and understanding, it was easier for me to deal with Carter. It’s easier for me to figure out what he wants or needs and it’s easier for him to try to communicate it to me the best way he knows how.
I know the journey ahead is filled with hurdles and road blocks, but you can handle it. You will handle it because you’re a great mom. You wouldn’t do anything less than the best. No matter how tough it is.
To my friend–I’m here for you!