It’s Getting Close

Dun, Dun, Dunnnnnnn!!

This wedding is like 2 weeks away.  Holy Crap!

Just about everything is ready and put into place.  I still have a few details to take care of, but hey, my motto has been: “I have time.”  I’m pretty sure I can use that line until the day of the wedding.

Even though this is considered a “small” wedding by Quang’s parents standards, the tasks I had to complete seemed quite large. I had no idea what I was doing.  I  have had some serious hair pulling, tantrum inducing moments.  Mainly because I didn’t want to do any work and I’ve been doing just that.  Taking care of a lot of things.  Big things and little things.  So, what drove me so crazy?  My top panic moments were:

  1. My dress.  When I tried my dress on with my shoes about 2 weeks ago I realized my dress was still too long! Help! I needed a seamstress ASAP.  Luckily, my Aunt was able to take care of that for me and my dress is finished.  With 2 weeks to spare. I got lucky.
  2. Flowers.  I still needed flowers.  After getting a few quotes, I decided to attempt a DIY project.  Couldn’t I just make my own bouquets and boutonnieres for way cheaper?  Well, Pinterest says I can, so I’m good.  Right?  My very first DIY project was a success! It was as easy as I thought.  And so much cheaper.  I ordered my flowers and once they arrive, I’ll get to work.
  3. Bridesmaids dresses.  Finally made it to the bridal shop a couple weeks ago to try on some dresses.  Just called to confirm and those are in!
  4. The cake.  Who’s going to do this cake? I am definitely NOT attempting that DIY project, even though Pinterest seems to think anyone can do it! Not this girl.  After the failed cake tasting and a quote for over $800 from a fancy bakery, I found someone who agreed to do it at a much better price.  Yay!
  5. The guest list.  Trying to decide who to invite to the wedding was stressful.  I mean, you don’t want to end up offending anyone, but it didn’t take long to finally decide on just inviting immediate family and a few close friends.  My list is much smaller than Quang’s.  Since this wedding is basically for Quang’s family, they have the majority of the guest list.  Our reception isn’t at a very big place, so there isn’t much room to invite everyone.  And besides, having a wedding is expensive! I can’t invite everyone I know!

I know I saved a lot of stressful moments by not having a lot of things for this wedding that most do have.  I didn’t have to do “Save the Date” cards and invitations were actually done for us.  The reception location and menu were taken care of by Quang’s parents.  I didn’t opt for centerpieces or fancy decorations.  We don’t have a huge wedding party to deal with.  There’s no Engagement party or Bridal Shower to plan.  No bachelor or bachelorette party.  And although Quang thought I should pay someone to do the bouquets and boutonnieres so that I wouldn’t have to, I just couldn’t spend that kind of money.  Saving money makes me feel better.  That makes for a less stressful bride to be.  No bridezilla here.  And although I’ve gotten most things taken care of, I’m still feeling all sorts of emotions.  Of course I feel like there’s something I’m forgetting.  Made my list and checked it twice, but that feeling doesn’t go away.  I feel anxious.  I feel nervous.  Am I getting cold feet? Why did I agree to do this?

And then there are the good feelings.  I’m happy.  I’m excited.  I’ll be creating these wonderful memories with my best friend and our children.  Even though we never needed a legal marriage to validate our relationship, this wedding will be something special.  Something even bigger than just us.   We’ve grown so much together and accomplished many things.  We dream big, love unconditionally, fall hard, get up and keep moving. We sacrifice a lot, experience more, and appreciate every minute of life.  Our life together.  The wonderful life that we worked so hard to build.  At this moment in our lives, why wouldn’t I want to marry such a great man?  Such a great father.  Why wouldn’t I want to take his name?  The answer is I Do.  I do want to.  After 14 years together and raising 3 kids, we’ve been through it all as a couple.  As a team.  All in front of our family and friends.  The good, the bad, and the ugly.  And now we’ll finally get married in front of many of those same people.   So, yeah, I’m ready.  I’m ready to add this meaningful experience to our lives.  Deep breath.  The time is getting closer.  Here comes the bride.

Thank you, Ryan.  Thank you for asking.  I’m flattered, but I’m already getting married to someone awesome.